There is no spoon.
This is one of my favorite lines from one of my favorite movies.
If you are unfamiliar with it or have forgotten the scene, it is when the main character Neo goes to visit the Oracle the first time to see if he is “The One”. There is a room full of others that are being considered due to their talents.
Neo sits on the floor with one of the kids who is currently telekinetically playing with objects. Moving them around in space.
Neo grabs a spoon and is encouraged by the kid to bend it.
The kid instructs Neo to rather than trying to bend the spoon, consider the fact that there is no spoon.
At which point the spoon sort of melts and bends in Neo’s hand.
Only to be snapped back into it’s shape as a spoon once Neo is also snapped back into reality.
I was considering this story when thinking about Don Miguel Ruiz’s explanation of the Agreements we take on as we come into this world, this reality and are guided by parents, siblings, teachers, coaches, and society into the agreements of domestication.
We are told what to do, how to do it, when to do it, with whom to do it with in order to fit in and do it the way it has always been done.
It is amazing how domesticated we get, and how good we get at domesticating ourselves!
Telling ourselves what we should do, when we should do it, how we should do it and with whom. All the while shoving that burning desire of what we would do, when we would do it, how we would do it and with whom deeper and deeper down inside.
All the while believing that the “spoon” is just a spoon. It can’t be bent, moved around, or used for something else entirely.
Well, what if you can shape your life the way you would like? What if those “agreements” you took on without really agreeing to them can be shifted, deferred, or discarded all together? Without causing your life to plummet into a ball of flames?
What if you just took one thing that you would like to do, but set aside in favor of “fitting in” and did it?
What if there is no spoon?