(Originally posted on 4/23/2016)
(This article is going to be a bit of a continuation of the thought from my last blog.)
And you may find yourself living in a shotgun shack
And you may find yourself in another part of the world
And you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile
And you may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful
And you may ask yourself-Well…How did I get here?
–“Once in a Lifetime” David Byrne (Talking Heads)
My question kinda sounds like the question of a middle aged man wondering what happened to the time behind him.
Or the question of someone who woke up hung over in a parking lot after a night of drinking!
I assure you, it is the former.
It is funny, as I say middle aged man; I don’t exactly feel like one. But here I am at the doorstep of 50. So I guess as far as the perceptions of time in this reality I am at the mid point of my life.
But I have come to believe, even know that these perceptions are just part of our choices here, which is what the first question is about.
How did I get here, to this moment writing this blog on my laptop, looking out over a beautiful park, with the birds chirping freely and happily, and Sting playing on the speakers from my computer?
I got here by a series of choices. I choose to sit out here to write this afternoon, I choose to put Sting on Pandora. I choose to write this blog entry.
I can sit here and look back over the patched quilt work of memories of my life behind me, some fun, some not so fun, and see where it was that I made a choice to lead me to each and every one of those moments.
I bet you all can to with your lives as well, if you are willing to see it.
Some of this life teaches us, programs us into thinking that we are somehow at the mercy of outside forces guiding us along into almost fated existences, that we are victims of circumstance.
I don’t see it that way.
If I draw upon the things that have “worked out” in my favor in life, those have been the ones that I saw where it was that I wanted to go, mapped out the path and walked the steps with discipline to get there.
Likewise, the places I ended up that I didn’t like I kinda did the opposite. I didn’t spot where I wanted to go, or if I did, I didn’t map the trip out, or I didn’t follow the steps with the necessary discipline to get there.
Maybe I didn’t consult a guide to help out. Thinking I could handle the journey on my own. That happens! LOL!!
See though, this is all by choices that I have made.
I haven’t been at the mercy of anyone or anything. Everywhere where someone made choices for me, or I made a choice to abdicate my choice for theirs, that was all my choice.
Everywhere I choose to not make a choice, to bury my head in the sand so to speak, that was a choice as well and I got the affects of that choice for my experience.
Everywhere I ended up somewhere I didn’t like or in a situation where someone could take advantage of me, I choose those as well.
My health and well being is a collection of all of the choices I have made up to and including this point.
All of the food, drink, drugs, sleep, no sleep, exercise or not, stress relief or not, etc… all leading to how I look and feel at this moment.
There is really only one tool I wish to pass on with this blog today. It is this:
No matter where you are, you have the power to choose something else if that is what you desire.
You can simple just change the way you think about where you are and that will affect your experience, if you can’t just up and leave where you are at.
As for me, I think I will go for a bike ride!